“Hey Konnor, where you been?” “…Definitely not watching cartoons, I swear…” Not my best but most certainly not my worst. Drawn with anotherwellkeptsecret’s stream, where she drew Basil and Dawson.
I love 221B Con but I swear, the absolute hardest part is that feeling I have all weekend of not quite being a part of any friend group and wanting to have fandom friend groups but being…just so bad at social anything
I FEEL THIS SO HARD. Especially seeing all the group photos floating around?!
I think you and me and @berlynn-wohl should be, like, our own group.
I propose “adopt me” buttons
What’s funny about this is, to me, both you guys are the “cool kids.” I feel like wherever you guys go, that’s where the party’s at. That’s where the hilarious conversation about smutty fandom stuff is at. That’s where the unforgettable con moments are happening. And anytime you decide that, of all the things that you could be doing at this con, you’d like to hang out with/talk to *me*, that is, like, a ridiculous honor.
There are several more 221B regulars about whom I feel the same way. I just want to let you know that, despite how awkward you may feel, to me, being in a group with you in it would carry some prestige.
So I realize that nobody invited me to this conversation, but it’s worth adding that I feel that way about all three of you. Seriously, the number of “but am I cool enough to join the CAH game” feels or “omg Songlin is in the suite she’s maybe might gonna stay for the reading221b discussion we are gonna be a LEGIT OFFICIAL COOL PERSON EVENT oh never mind she is leaving aw nuts”
and I mean, to be clear: the people I usually hang with at 221bcon are some of my favorite people in the entire world, so zero regrets there. I guess it’s typical (and, you know, better) to feel sad about the time you missed with some people, while still being happy about the time you got with others. so I am reblogging to add that totally cliched thing BUT ALSO to say that I really wish I had gotten to spend more time with each of the three of you, and not only because you are much cooler than I am, but also maybe a little bit because of that,
I love the idea of adopt me buttons. It was my first con. I was so happy to be there and had a lot of fun, but definitely had moments of ‘I’m not nearly cool enough’ and ‘how do I socialize?’ (also everyone on this post already are my ‘cool kids’)
So genderqueer omegaverse came up at the second ABO panel and because social anxiety I didn’t manage to raise my hand and say hey I wrote one of those. So, hopefully this reaches someone who cares. I think I still have at least one story left to tell with these characters.
More and more I’m beginning to think that a lot of wank
about problematic “ships” comes from the fact that we’re collapsing an entire spectrum of how people approach fandom pairings into a single word. (To keep the language
simpler here I’ve only talked about “pairings”, but this also applies
to poly ships.)
At one extreme, I’m personally reluctant to use the word “shipping” at all about
pairings I read and write, because I don’t think “shipping” really
describes how I approach fandom. I don’t have strong feelings about who
characters should be paired with. When I read or write a pairing it’s because
that pairing has a dynamic I’m interested in, not because I think it would be good for the characters.
At the other end of the spectrum, I know people for whom
“shipping” really is believing that two characters should be together, because they have such a great relationship dynamic in canon. Who believe that being together would be better for both characters.
When people say that nobody should ever “ship” or create fanworks about a pairing because
they have an unhealthy relationship in canon, those people seem to be assuming that
literally everyone who creates fanworks about a pairing “ships” them in that second sense. That the only reason to create fanworks about a pairing is because you believe the
characters have a great relationship dynamic in canon, and would be better off together.
Fandom is about so, so much more than that.
Sometimes we want to read or write about unhealthy relationships. Sometimes we want to explore what circumstances might
make a relationship healthier, or unhealthier, than what’s depicted in canon.
We “ship” characters with unhealthy canon dynamics because we believe these are interesting and important stories
to tell.
Not all relationships are healthy. It’s absurd to insist that we should only ever tell stories about completely healthy relationships.
….
Crap, that makes a *lot* of sense.
I mean, this is an actual quote from an anti post I saw today: “If you ship an abusive ship, you condone that ship automatically. There’s no way around it.”
This person clearly understands the word “ship” to entail some sort of moral endorsement – they’ve said so outright!
But that isn’t the only kind of “shipping”, and that kind of “shipping” certainly isn’t the only reason people create or enjoy fanworks about a pairing.
Alright so listen up girls and boys with bleeding nether regions:
Buy Always Infinity with Flexfoam. Buy nothing else. Buy Always Infinite with Flexfoam.
This sexy beast. There’s a bunch of versions. But so long as it says Infinity and Flexfoam, fucking GET IT.
So I’ve always been a fan of Always pads. Can’t stand tampons because of all the horror stories and in general, they’re uncomfortable. Always just seems to be the brand that’s always there so we always got it.
Every since Always released their Infinity brand, we’ve literally hated everything else. Even the regular versions of Always. Infinity is the way to go. It is the ONLY way to go.
Infinity is like the only way we can keep our damn bedsheets and clothes bloodless. The first night I got my period I woke up with my boxers just soaked. Completely soaked. Blood. Everywhere.
So I just pop into the bathroom and thus far we’ve only got regular Always pads. Put one on. It’s about as miserable as you’d expect. The pad shifts as you sit and move and when you change pads you’re probably changing underwear too because of the blood just seeping out the sides and getting everywhere.
But then we have Always Infinity. With the Flexfoam. You know that bullshit on the side of the box brands spew where they’re like THIS SUPER INGENIOUS INVENTION WITH A FANCY NAME IS GOING TO GIVE YOU PRISTINE CLEANLINESS AND ULTIMATE PROTECTION AND THATS WHY WE USE FLEXFOAM.
They’re not fucking kidding guys. This isn’t a fucking game. These pads are relentless. No blood gets by. You’d probably have to unhygenically use one pad 24 hours+ before the blood will actually leave the pad and get anywhere.
In addition to that? It’s invisible.
Okay look, guys. I’m trans. I’m a transman. I’m a fucking dude. I don’t suffer from dysphoria but nothing annoys and irritates me more than knowing I am wearing a fucking diaper because I can feel it everytime I move and stand and sit down.
Not these bitches. No fucking way. They’re thin, they’re super big and they’re completely inmovable. I don’t have to keep grabbing at my crotch or my ass to readjust the pad lest blood be splashing everywhere. It stays in one fucking place and it doesn’t leave until you rip it out yourself.
THIS SHIT IS SO NICE. GO GET YOURSELF SOME. PLEASE SAVE YOURSELVES. SAVE YOUR UNDERWEAR. SAVE YOUR QUILTS. SAVE YOUR BED. HERE’S SOME COUPONS.
Rebloggin’ by request of the moum
I can say the same. These things are the shit and its beautiful. Whoever figured it out how to make them I’d very much like to thank, and I’m pretty sure my underwear would too.
A long time ago I read that Always pads make ur hingy itch but this person seems to really like them so I guess that problem was fixed. The thing i read was at least a year ago, probably more.
HOLY SHIT YOU GUYS when I was in Toronto (one night in a nice hotel downtown and of course I got my fucking period) and the mini mart had these on sale so I took the risk and THESE ARE INCREDIBLE
THIN! No leaks! No blood down the ass crack! FLEX FOAM FOR LIFE!!
Always Infinity and Always Radiant are the same exact product. Both have the flex foam but Radiant just has a fragrance to it + more colorful packaging. When one is on sale, the other one generally isn’t so buy the one on sale! Also, once you finish, the boxes can have coupons on the inside so use those on your next purchase!
You had me at no blood down the ass crack.
I can confirm how lovely these are and i refuse to use anything else over these
These are incredible. I HATE pads. Hate them. I only started using them because endo made it impossible for me to use tampons. My periods were miserable when I had to switch.
Then I found flexfoam. My periods have completely changed. I can barely tell it’s there. No more diaper feeling. No more blood escaping. And seriously, my periods get really heavy at points and the foam absorbs it all.
THESE SHITS ARE MY FUCKING SAVIOR. YOU FORGET YOU’RE EVEN ON YOUR PERIOD, IT’S AMAZING LISTEN TO THIS POST.
👆🏾Literally Will Forget You’re r On Your Period They Are Super Comfy And Shit
I so second this for all the people who have periods
Totally agree! I don’t buy brand-name anything if I can help it, but I won’t buy any other pads but these *actual brand-name* because nothing else comes CLOSE to being as effective.
Adding the person who has had many gyno surgeries/biopsies/scopes over a few years and finally did the full hysterectomy, any procedure whereafter there will be unknown amounts of random bleeding for weeks and tampons/cups/anything inserted is barred because infection risks, where there is going to be a mess and fuck where am I supposed to get the energy to do LAUNDRY or CLEAN THINGS WITH COLD WATER because STITCHES IN MY VAG and MEDS and EXHAUSTED and oh yeah don’t lift anything over ten pounds and why is what is coming out of me ORANGE???
IDK if they put kevlar in these things or what but no leaks of anything anywhere any time.
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