I’m new to the d/s scene and I could use some advice. I’m not sure how to address dominants I talk to who are not my master. Help?

scrumptiousangst:

b-a-b-y-monster-deactivated2018:

So this is an interesting question and you came to the right person if you want a slightly controversial answer!

I’ve been in this lifestyle a long time. I have been living it in real life but I have also been active in many online forums. Now this is where it gets tricky..

In my local bdsm community, I have gotten to know dominants face to face, seen them play, earned their respect. I know they are real. Those Dominants, I address respectfully as “Sir”.

Online, I don’t have that luxury, so I tend to avoid titles altogether until I have REALLY gotten to know someone and know they’re legit.

If I’m speaking to a Dom that I’m personally interested in, I tend to be more playful with my monikers and I call them “Mister”.

Never, in my life, have I addressed a man as “Master” or “Daddy” if he was not MINE, despite his insistence that I do so. Do not ever do that. A man who insists you do this is a moron with an inflated sense of self. Steer clear.

So to summarize, your safest bet is always “Sir” if the dominant in question is someone you know and respect. Until he earns that, just use his name/screen name. Don’t give him the satisfaction of assuming he’s better than you are.

Not sure why this would be controversial but excellent explanation.