Tag: we shouldn’t be left out

anauthorandherservicedog:

honeylout:

why are people such assholes to those who identify as asexuals? so the + that you have been putting in lgbtq is just for show? so if they happen to be cis and het they are no longer part of a minority even though they identify as asexual? so you only accept people who are interested in having sex? so the inclusive community is just fit for those that YOU judge that don’t fit the norm? show some fucking compassion and stop excluding people. ace people are valid and part of the lgbtq+ community.

They have no idea how hard it is to be ace.

How hard it was to grow up ace back when “asexual” only applied to single-celled organisms.

How hard it still is to grow up surrounded by sex everywhere. You have to have sex. You have to want sex. You shouldn’t have sex with anyone but ~the one~ but you’re going to want it anyway.

Sex factors into everything. What you wear. How you look. How you walk. Where you go. Who you hang out with.

Everyone wants it. Of course everyone wants it. Anyone who doesn’t is broken.

Get on The Pill or get T to fix it, because it’s hormones. Get therapy to fix it, because it’s your brain. Get laid with new people to fix it because you just haven’t fucked the right person.

WRONG.

Because aces aren’t broken. Aces are erased. Persecuted. Forgotten. Abused. Coerced. Raped. Forced to take meds and go through therapy and told again and again that this is ~fixable~.

But we’re not broken. We’re just fucking fine as we are, and nobody has any right to say otherwise. Yet we still go through this shit every time Pride rolls around, and I’m sick of it.

Every goddamn thing any queer person with any other letter in the LGBTQ+ alphabet could go through, we go through, too.

You’re goddamn right we’re part of the community, no matter what other shit you think “disqualifies” us.

In fact, protip: If you’re gatekeeping any fellow self-declared queers, saying they don’t deserve to be part of the community, you’re being an asshole.