This incredible 95-year-old transwoman flight instructor found love late in life– only to be denied social security benefits by the government because she’s not cisgender
A beautiful interview with a woman who transitioned in 1976 shows how life for transgender people has changed over the years, although some terrible consequences remain the same.
Gifs: Lambda Legal
all my followers are reblogging that post on how “if youre a trans man on t for longer than 5 years you will get uterine cancer” and
1) the link is a huffington post article,
2) im not a trans man but ive been looking and cant find any sources on long-term testosterone use having an increase in cancer rates,
and 3) im not saying this is fearmongering trans ppl but it sure is cispicious
trans men on t: just get your junk checked up by a doctor once a year, you don’t ever need a hysterectomy unless your doctor finds something concerning. if your doctor or anyone else says you MUST get a hysto after a set amount of time, DONT BUY IT
that doesn’t even make sense, considering uterine cancer is associated with more exposure to estrogen. also this article doesn’t have anything regarding trans men, but it does say that exposure to testosterone shows no correlation with proliferation of the cells lining your uterus
long story short theres not enough information on long-term effects of hrt to definitively say “this is going to give you cancer” especially when theres a five year timer on it.
the other post had about 4k notes last i saw – which is hundreds of trans people who now believe transitioning is going to potentially kill them in a few years. please be more critical of what “trans information” posts you post and reblog, because this is straight up cruel
yeah i saw that post a few nights ago and did some looking into it and it basically can be concluded that, like a lot of trans stuff, its different for everyone, but its still worth getting checked out! and heres a good site about hysterectomies that was made for trans men that has a lot of good info too ^___^
Imho Chelsea running is a good thing. She won’t be able to affect the system, but her platform gives the left some much-needed exposure.
Like the Overton window exists, and a radical trans woman running for office is going to make a lot more waves and connect with a LOT more people than a 500 word Tumblr essay denouncing electoral politics.
Noooo stoppppp
Why are y’all obsessed with her running just bc she’s trans????
What are her credentials?
What are her skills?
We can’t go through this another term, even if it’s not for president.
Stop sensationalizing Chelsea Manning.
I’m excited for her running because she has radical politics, not because she’s trans (although that’s great as well). The problem with Trump isn’t that he’s under-qualified, it’s that he’s a racist, misogynistic, rich, neoliberal fuckwad who deregulates everything in sight and doesn’t care one bit for anyone but himself. Chelsea, on the other hand, was incarcerated and psychologically tortured for exposing US war crimes. She’s got morality, something severely lacking in the government.
We’ve got plenty of perfectly qualified, skilled career politicians who don’t bat an eyelash when dozens of civilians violently die by drone strike. Not to mention, plenty of politicians get elected whose only credentials are a business degree and a couple runs as auditor and yet they’re seen as perfectly qualified candidates.
THIS SHOULD ENRAGE ALL OF US!
The Trump administration is considering a new “religious freedom” rule that would allow healthcare workers to refuse to treat LGBT patients.“
Please… read that again.WOULD. ALLOW. HEALTHCARE. WORKERS. TO. REFUSE. LGBT. PEOPLE.
#RESIST
He’s done more than “consider a rule”
He’s even created an entire division that fields complaints that these people would make in case someone tries to strong arm them to do it!
He even created a website hot button that use a help desk so it can get you a representative!
We knew they’d try harder after the trans band failed.
this is murder.
Trans women have already been denied care by emergency responders, and died as a result, that has already happened. Now that fucker wants to bring that back, with legal protections for killers who do that.
That is murder. Make no mistake, this will kill people.
Trump will give healthcare workers the right to refuse to treat LGBT people
So very true
So very false???
A cat literally can’t express itself but a boy who wants to wear dresses will say “I want to wear a dress” vs a trans girl who will say “I’m a girl” there’s a massive difference and conflating the two just reveals how little you understand about our experiences.
I bet y’all demons would have kept trying to convince 13yo me that I was a boy. You only care about kids that turn out to be cis. You’re transparent and we see through you.
Also, a kid saying ‘I’m a girl’ instead of ‘I’m a boy’ is not going to die if they say they are a girl instead of a boy. A cat will die if fed a vegan diet.
Human children are also not animals, they are people. Comparing a four year old to an animal in terms of ‘ability to express ones self, intelligence, and capacity for decision making’ is not only vastly, provably incorrect, but extraordinarily dehumanizing.
A child is more than capable of making decisions on their own. No, they can’t make life altering ones like ‘keep grandpa on life support’, but they can choose things and know about themselves. Believe me, I have met a LOT of four year olds. They have the capacity for decision making. ‘This shirt or that shirt’, ‘these shoes or those shoes’, ‘this bear out of all these different bears’, ‘poutine not a burger’.
They can also tell you facts about themselves by age four: ‘I like the ocean!’, ‘I like pizza with pepperoni!’ ‘I have brown eyes!’ ‘my dog just died!’ and ‘I am a boy/girl’.
Four year old children are aware of a great many things. They certainly lack maturity and world knowledge, but they know enough about themselves by age four to tell you if you’re wrong about something about them. If I told a four year old ‘you have purple hair’ they would correct me if they in fact had blonde hair. If I call a boy a girl by mistake, they correct me and tell me ‘actually I’m a boy’. And who the hell am I to question that?
We have learned of the higher risks of cancer if a hysterectomy is not completed after five years of being on testosterone.
This is important. Read it. Especially if you have been on T for over or close to 5 years. I have felt these pains. Even just today. I have been on T for over 5 years.
Something I have learned and have tried to be less of afraid of as a trans person is that you need to put your physical health above your feelings of shame. If you’re having a serious medical concern you need to find a doctor you are comfortable with and talk to them. It’s not fun, it’s not easy to do, but it’s important for your health.
Please, followers, remember to report any and all pain you experience to your doctor. Do not hide it! Your doctors are there to take care of you and ensure that you are safely and discreetly taken care of.
-M
Super important!!
I came out as trans to my uncle, and he wrote the loveliest response:
“Thank you for coming out to us! It is a joyful occasion to share being yourself with your family. The consciousness that resides in each of us is without gender, but gender and bodies are trappings that we put on, and it is important that you are comfortable in them. Much like a decent pair of pants.”
This is so beautiful and profound and then…..that last line.
Still beautiful, BUT OH THE LAUGHTER.
I wrote this up in response to another post but it really should have its own post here on my blog. The topic? Sex scenes involving trans guys, how to write them, and how not to write them.
There’s been a lot of trans male headcanons popping up in fandoms lately. And that’s awesome! As a trans guy myself, I love seeing trans headcanons by both cis and trans people! And there’s been a lot of fics & art involving trans dudes having sex popping up lately. And that’s awesome too! Hell yeah we can get down and do the do! Unfortunately… many of these headcanons, art pieces, & fics don’t portray trans guys, their bodies, and their sex lives accurately. And that’s… not so awesome. There’s some pretty icky stereotypes and commonalities going around. So I’m here to shed a little light on trans men and how we get down.
First, I’d like to start by saying this content is of a mature nature, please exercise reader discretion before deciding to read it and follow your local laws & restrictions regarding such content.
Second, I’d like to note that my ask box is always open to questions if anybody wants to fact-check their trans fic with an actual trans dude. I’m more than willing to help educate.
Now, on to the lesson!
InterdictedKai’s Guide To Writing Trans Men Having Sex:
- SEXUAL ORIENTATION: Trans guys come in all sexual orientations.
- If a trans man is having sex with a man, whether that man is cis or trans, that is gay sex. They’re both men. Having gay sex.
- If a trans man is having sex with a woman, whether that woman is cis or trans, that is straight sex.
It’s a man and a woman. That’s straight sex.- Trans guys can most often
be found fucking: gay men, bi/pan men, straight women, & bi/pan
women. In other words: People who are attracted to men.- TERMINOLOGY: My number one issue with people who aren’t trans guys (eg: cis, nb, etc) writing about trans guys having sex is the words they use. Topping the chart: CALL IT A DICK, NOT A CLIT. Seriously.
- Up top: The most standard term for talking
about a trans guy’s chest is ‘chest’. A lot of pre-op & no-op trans guys are
really not okay with having the lumps on their chest called ‘breasts’.
So if you’re writing about trans men getting some action on
their torso, you’re better off talking about his chest and nipples than his breasts
and nipples.- The pole: It’s a dick. It might be a small dick but almost universally every
trans guy I’ve met calls it a dick or cock and either dislikes or is
actively squicked by it being called a clit. I’ve had so many
conversations with other trans guys where we salt about seeing cis
people writing trans guys in fic & calling it a clit. Sure, there are
exceptions,
trans guys who use the word clit, but there’s also gay men who use the
f-slur to describe themselves. That’s a personal use. It’s not the standard. It’s not the
common term. It’s not okay if you’re someone who isn’t a trans dude writing about a trans
dude having sex. It doesn’t matter if you’re cis, nb, or any other identity, call it a dick. It’s a dick. Call it a dick. It doesn’t
matter if they’re pre-T, on T, or if they’ve had some sort of genital
surgery. It’s a dick any which way. He is a man. He has a penis.- The hole: There is no standard term
for what a trans guy is probably gonna call the hole he’s got in front.
I know guys using: Cunt, vagina, pussy, front hole, front door, boy
hole, bonus hole, and so on. Personally, I like cunt, it’s gritty and abrasive and feels the most ‘masculine’ to me personally.
That said, whatever term you use, try to be respectful in using it and
understand that not all trans guys want sex to involve that body part.- TO REPEAT: DO NOT CALL A TRANS DUDE’S DICK A CLIT.
- COMING OUT: Coming out as trans is usually scary. Coming out as trans can be dangerous.
- Trans guys who pass, meaning they are perceived as men by people they meet, will at some point have to come out to romantic and/or sexual partner(s).
- Usually these conversations will take place well before anything gets hot and heavy but sometimes things get a little carried out of hand and things need to pause so they can talk.
- The last place most trans guys want to be when disclosing they’re trans
is in the bedroom with someone’s hand down their pants as an “oh, by
the way”. There have been many of cases of trans guys getting attacked in these situations if their partner freaks out over it. General rule? Don’t write your coming out scene as happening in the bedroom.- BODY BOUNDARIES: Trans people in general have a different relationship to their body from cis people by virtue of being trans. So since we’re focused on trans guys, let’s get into that.
- Not all trans guys have sex the same way. Not all trans guys are okay
with using some or all of the body parts they have during sex. We each
have different body boundaries.- I know guys who won’t get
shirtless, guys who won’t take off their binder, and guys who strip shirtless without worry. I know guys who don’t want their chest touched
and guys who are really into receiving nipple play.- I know guys who love getting
blowjobs and guys who don’t want a mouth down there.- I know guys who
don’t want their cunt touched, guys who are okay with only fingers in there, and guys who are all about taking things
in the front door.- I know guys who don’t want any penetrative sex, guys who don’t care where you put it, guys who only want it in the front, guys who don’t want anything in their ass, and
guys who are fine as long as it’s only going in their ass.- I know guys who
exclusively top, never bottom, and have gorgeous collections of
strap-ons to fuck their partner(s). Yes, that’s right, trans men can top!- These are just some examples and there’s no standard. Every trans man
will have different body boundaries that they need to discuss with their partner(s).- BODY CHANGES: The body changes a lot on testosterone. So let’s get into some of those changes.
- CHEST: Chest fat does lessen on testosterone, but not usually by much. That said, they do become a lot more
limp due to binding over the years. Binding makes
breast tissue basically wilt, break down, and go floppy. If a trans guy binds, his chest fat will become more limp over time. Easier to compress flatter, but also deteriorates skin quality for future surgery.
- BODY HAIR: Holy hairy nipples, batman! Trans guys often get
chest hair, just like cis guys. I’ve never once seen a fic talk
about a
trans guy’s chest hair. Trans guys also get happy trails, facial hair, thicker
hair on our legs and arms, etc, and generally develop average male body & facial hair patterns.- DICK: This is one of the most noticeable changes on T, and also the fastest. Most guys begin to notice their dick starting to grow within a few weeks of starting T. Most grow to around 1″-2″ when erect. There are many cases of guys getting as much as 3″ but these should be considered outliers and not average. It’s the trans dude equivalent of a cis dude with a 10″ dick: possible but uncommon. Wait, erect? Yep! It gets erect. You can definitely see when a trans guy has a boner if you’re looking at his dick! You can also notice that it has a foreskin just like an uncut penis! The labia may also become more coarse and similar in texture to a cis guy’s balls.
- FLUIDS: Not all trans guys get dry downstairs on T. Some do. But I know a lot of guys who’ve gotten a lot more wet
since starting T. It happens a lot. It’s a 50/50 shot, really.
Bodies are weird. There are some sloppy, messy, slick trans guys and
some trans guys who have to use lube daily so they don’t chafe or even
use an estrogen cream down there.- SMELL: On Testosterone, the smell of a trans guy’s junk changes. You get Man Musk™
within the first 6 months. Anyone who’s been near a cis guy’s dick
knows what I mean by that: that really sharp, earthy dick smell.- TASTE: After
about 6-8 months on testosterone, a trans guy’s fluids down there stop tasting like going down on a cis girl and they start tasting a hell of a lot more like a cis dude’s precum. It’s a hormone thing. So giving a trans dude who’s been on T for a while a blowjob is gonna smell & taste a lot more like blowing a guy with a really leaky dick than going down on a girl. Cause that’s exactly what’s going on.- ORGASMS: Orgasms also change on testosterone. Guys who could previously get multiple orgasms pre-T often can’t once they start testosterone. But they do usually report them being stronger and more intense.
- HAVING SEX: Trans men definitely don’t have sex like cis
women. Because they’re not
cis women. They’re men. They’re just men with a slightly different tool
set in their tool belt.
- Like I said under Body Boundaries, we use our
bodies to have sex in many varied ways. Blowjobs, handjobs,
rimming, vaginal fingering, anal fingering, vaginal sex, anal sex, I
could go on for ages.- If a trans guy is
taking a cis dude’s dick in his cunt, it’s still gay sex, not straight sex, and
needs to be treated as such.- SAFER SEX & PREGNANCY:
- Trans guys can get STDs like any other guy and should use condoms
accordingly. Trans guys having risky or unprotected sex with cis men may
be prescribed PrEP, an HIV-prevention medication designed to lower the risk of contracting HIV.- Speaking of STDs, people can get gonorrhoea & chlamydia in their ass or throat via anal & oral sex. This will not show on a standard pee test. There are special swabs for the ass and throat. Most doctors do not routinely perform these tests. They really should. But, back to the point.
- Some people think trans men can’t
get pregnant. This is a myth. Some men think trans men can’t be on birth control. This is a myth. These myths are dangerous.- Trans men who are having sex with cis men can get pregnant unless they’ve had a hysterectomy. The risk of pregnancy is decreased but not eliminated by T.
- Trans men on T cannot get estrogen-based birth control but they can be on progesterone-only birth control. Most large trans-affirming health clinics will recommend this
for trans men who have sex with cis men. Generally, this comes in two
forms: a daily pill known as the ‘minipill’ or a 12-week injection known
as the ‘depo shot’.- MEDICAL PROCEDURES: There are many routes trans guys can take in terms of medically transitioning.
- For most trans people, the first step is hormone replacement therapy (HRT). For trans guys, this involves Testosterone therapy. Testosterone is usually administered via injection every 1, 2, or 12 weeks, depending on which kind, or via a daily cream/gel. 1 & 2 week shots are self-administered while 12-week shots are done by a professional. Trans guys who come out as kids or young teens may be prescribed hormone blockers to prevent or halt puberty
until they can start T when they’re 15-18 (age varies with local laws
& doctor’s discretion).- Another step for trans guys is usually top surgery. Guys with tiny chests (small B or less) can get periareolar (’peri’) or keyhole surgery. This leaves only a tiny scar around the nipple. Guys with larger chests usually get a double incision
(’DI’) surgery which involves larger scars along the bottom of the pecs
and nipple grafts or, less commonly, an Inverted-T or T-anchor surgery
which involves the same scars under the pecs but an additional vertical
scar from there to the nipple while eliminating the need for nipple
grafts.- Trans guys usually get a total hysterectomy, removing the uterus, ovaries, cervix, and all the bits in between. A trans guy who has his ovaries removed must be on some form of hormone therapy (eg: testosterone) or else risks bone loss & osteoporosis.
- Some trans guys may opt for genital surgery. These procedures and the reasons why some trans guys might or might not want
one surgery or another is a whole complicated topic in itself. But if
you’re curious, look into metoidioplasty (’meta/meto’) or phalloplasty
(’phallo’). Tread carefully.So, I’ll wrap this up with my most important point, again: If you are anything other than a trans guy (eg: if you are cis, nb, etc), DO NOT CALL A TRANS DUDE’S DICK A CLIT. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS SMUTTY, CALL IT A DICK.
And, as I said, anyone can feel free to message me if they have questions about writing trans guys having sex.
Tl;dr: Just be respectful and know your subject matter.
I don’t reblog much, but this is too well said not to.
This always gets a reblog.
Shoutout to any trans friends that’ll be misgendered by family during this holiday season. You’re strong and you’ll get through this. I love you and wish you the best.
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