how the fuck did all of those renaissance dilettantes learn so much crap? Like they spoke 3 languages and were foremost in several branches of science, plus they wrote poetry, played the violin, and were master artists? And they still had time to be gay?
none of them ever did any laundry at all
The emotional and physical labor necessary to maintain the lifestyles of Renaissance and Enlightenment polymaths was shunted almost entirely to their uncredited servants, slaves, wives, and daughters.
Whenever we compare ourselves to the ‘genius men’ of the past, and wonder why we fall so short, remember this: their intellectual capacity, energy, and freedom was because there was someone else washing the damn dishes.
Tag: seriously. this.
TRUMP SHOULD NOT BE ABLE TO DO ANYTHING PRESIDENTIAL UNTIL HE IS CLEARED BECAUSE WHAT HE IS ACCUSED OF IS NOTHING LESS THAN TREASON.
[Image description: a space on a parking lot marked as ‘handicapped parking’ with the words ‘people who think we need “straight pride parades” or a “white history month” are kinda like people who look at handicapped parking spaces and say ‘why don’t I get something like that, huh?’ …they don’t care why it exists, they don’t care that they get the whole parking lot, they’re just mad that there are 4 spaces in front of the Walmart that aren’t just for them.’ written on the asphalt. End image description.]
I’m saying this in the most honest to god, genuine, kind way:
If PDA makes you uncomfortable… don’t go to pride. it’s fine. you don’t have to go
but it is unfair to others, whom have no other open outlet for their repressed public displays of affection, to go “I hate pda, so please hide that shit at pride”
Pride is one of the few safe places to OPENLY display same gendered affection. Please stop shaming people for doing just that, dudes
Friendly reminder for pride month that if someone’s willing to call themselves queer, they’re probably queer, and you don’t know anyone well enough to determine otherwise for them 😳✨🌈
@luchile said: “
#ok but i will Fite™ cishet aces on sight!!!!“No, you won’t, and you’re missing most of the point of this post. If someone’s willing to be called queer and take on what that means, they’re queer, and you don’t get to make the decision on that. If someone’s actually straight, they’ll back out of it pretty quick because they’ll get a taste of homophobia and decide it isn’t worth the buzzwords.
Look at what the actual threats to queer people are. The government. Police brutality. Rising fascism. Lack of social services. Lack of affordable healthcare. “Cishet aces,” who are about 1% of all asexuals to begin with, don’t even make the list. And how are you going to tell which ones are “cishet,” anyway? Nah, you just want a convenient boogeyman you can actually hurt, because the real evil people in power are too scary and you don’t want to spend actual effort fighting for anything or doing anything that would benefit more than just you.
Here’s the thing about body-shaming: you can’t do it on an individual basis. You can never body-shame only one person. If you make fun of a physical feature of someone you hate, it’s going to affect everyone who shares that feature, regardless of whether they share the trait that made you want to mock them in the first place.
If you make fun of a racist actress’s lips, you are implying that that feature is bad, and then anyone who shares that physical feature is going to be hit by that, regardless of whether they are racist themselves.
If you make fun of an evil politician’s body type, anyone who shares that body type will be hit by that.
When you body-shame, you are tying personality traits or evil actions to physical traits. You are tying racism to fatness. You are tying misogyny to big noses. You’re taking morally neutral traits–physical ones–and attaching unnecessary moral weight to them. Attractiveness is not synonymous with goodness. Unattractiveness is not synonymous with evil.
Suddenly being fat isn’t just a physical trait–it’s an indicator of moral worth.
It doesn’t matter if someone “deserves” to be body-shamed or not. There is no way to mock their appearance without it also hurting innocent people who happen to share features with that person.
When people say, for example, “stop fat-shaming Donald Trump” they’re not saying “you’re being so mean to Trump and he doesn’t deserve it.” They’re saying “you are inadvertently hurting people other than Trump, including some people who are already hurt by Trump himself.”
It’s sad what some Dominants teach their subs.
I’ve been talking to a potential new sub for a few months now. She has some mental health issues but I’m a MH nurse so that’s not an issue for me.
But she was having a hard day today and she vented to me and cried and I said she wanted to self harm. I gave her a task instead, she was to write me a short story about an adventure. She did and it was good and it helped improve her mood.A few hours later she said she thinks she needs to apologise, ‘i shouldn’t be talking to my dominant about my problems.’
My heart felt crushed hearing her say that. What kind of experiences must she have haad to come away with that idea of the dynamic.
Obviously I told her that dominance is about much more than sex and the her wellbeing and heppiness is my responsibility.But I just wanted to say to anyone exploring BDSM that your Dom or your sub is so much more than a sexual partner. You have to be able to confide in them, to be vulnerable Infront of them (especially important for a Dom in my opinion) and to trust them with your emotions as well as your body.
I thought this would be a good blog to share this on. Thanks for reading.
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This ^^^
also to expand on what i was talking about earlier, straight people get annoyed when gay people “talk about being gay so much” because they fail to realize that we aren’t just talking about how much we like to fuck or w/e like. it’s about being apart of a community with culture, one that has rich history that we can find meaning and support from that doesn’t exist in the wider world. straight people don’t get how rich and rewarding our identities are and they don’t get that it took a long time for most of us to accept ourselves. they literally do not understand any of that and don’t want to.
when it comes to being straight, there is no history or culture behind that, it usually is all about romance and/or sex to them, its almost like they literally forget that we have a huge culture and history.
so that leads to them taking “i love being gay” as “oh you’re shoving the fact that you like to fuck other women in my face i get it shut up” when its like?? not about that at all?
i mean even if it was, it would STILL be different than straight people talking about sex, because gay people have been demonized for having gay sex for decades, but thats beside the point. i’m just. tired of straight people saying this
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