phases – Beltainefaerie's Flights of Fancy

weareadvocates:

just-pansexual-things:

thetroublesofbeingtrans:

instead of assuring everyone that it “isn’t a phase”, why don’t we just assure everyone that if it is a phase it’s fine? it’s healthy to figure yourself out? because if we tell everyone it’s not a phase and it ends up being a phase, those people are going to feel guilty, like they stole resources or wasted time. It’s not bad to ‘go through a phase’. It’s a healthy way of finding out who you are. And if it isn’t a phase, that’s fine too. But if it is, there’s no reason to feel bad.

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This is a wonderful point. How about instead of saying “it isn’t a phase” or “it’s a phase” we all agree that is someone tells you they might be gay/bi/trans/pan/queer, you say “great” and leave it to them to figure out their identity without your input. Because no one knows exactly who another person is. Especially if they don’t.