I know a lot of lesbians that used to identify as bi who worried that coming out as a lesbian would contribute to invalidating bisexuality in some way, by making it seem like a “stepping stone” to coming out as gay. I’ve also known bi women who identified as lesbians and changed their labels later, and worried that they were contributing to some kind of idea about how men can ~turn lesbians. I just wanted to say that it’s no individual lesbian or bi women’s responsibility to fix straight people’s perception of us. Like, it’s not your duty to serve as a political symbol! It’s your duty to find happiness even if that means changing ur label at some points.

Thank you! I was really worried about coming out as bi, even after I was married to my husband. I had run gay groups, put on pride events, etc for years. Sexuality can be fluid or one’s understanding of it can deepen.

This pride month here is a reminder of my story: I identified as a lesbian for probably a decade. Even after getting together with my husband I thought he was just a unique individual and somehow genitalia didn’t matter. Turns out I now have the words and deeper understanding of sexuality and gender to articulate that I’m demisexual and at the time I identified as a lesbian I only had deep enough relationships with women to experience sexual attraction to them. Once I formed deeper relationships with men when I was in college, I determined that I was occasionally attracted men, but that pansexual was a better word for my attraction, since a person’s body is something I grow to be attracted to, enjoy, and find pleasure with only after only after the deep spiritual/friendship connection is forged. I had adopted the language of attraction, saying people were hot when I found them aesthetically pleasing, etc, because I thought everyone was exaggerating their “attraction” to celebrities and even people they knew. Now I am poly and actively in relationships with men and women, but I should not serve as a represenation of pansexuality. Many, many pan and bi individuals are successfully monogamous and the “greedy” or “slut” archetype dismisses/hurts a lot of people

crystalesbian:

a-quiet-green-agreement:

–Emily Dickinson

wlwbeauty:

If you think you’re bi for a month or a year or your whole life and then realize you’re a lesbian, that’s fine!!

If you think you’re a lesbian for a month or a year or your whole life and then realize you’re bi, that’s also fine!!

Figuring out your sexuality is a long and complicated process, and things can change. It doesn’t mean you were lying, faking, or anything like that, and if anyone says otherwise they’re wrong and also horrible. Girls who like girls are cool no matter what your history is

Lesbian escapes Russia by boat and sails to Canada to be with the woman she loves

angryirene:

quickweaves:

girlsmoonsandstars:

dear goddess let there be a movie

I AM LIVING

Folks this is a beautiful story but these two women need help. She has NOT found a safe haven in Canada.

It’s been 10+ years since Elena (the Russian) arrived in Canada. At first she was declared a refugee and was granted asylum. Over the last several years she has been fighting with the Canadian government to become a citizen (as she is the spouse of a Canadian citizen), and has run into about a million bureaucratic and incompetent hurdles, the result of which is that she is now a stranded and stateless person through no fault of her own. Her partner has prepared a press release (http://www.cadenza.ca/index.php/en/news/#pressrelease) that contains the full story. Please read it, and do what you can for them – I don’t know of a way to donate to them, but at the very least spread the word. If you’re Canadian, please RAISE HELL about this.

Granada Irene Adler

plaidadder:

Forgot to mention in my writeup of the Granada “Scandal In Bohemia” that this may be where the Moffat vision of Irene Adler as ‘gay’ (that’s the word he had her say in the script, don’t complain to me) came from.

In this flashback to Irene’s romance with the King, we see him sitting in some Moulin Rouge-type establishment watching the cancan girls do their high kicking, and then the gentleman next to him turns around and it’s Irene Adler in drag. She certainly seems very interested in the entertainment.

This is never followed up in any serious way, but it can certainly be read as a coded indication of Adler’s bisexuality. At any rate, it was the first adaptation to suggest to me that Adler’s cross-dressing might be a form of self-expression and not merely a convenient way of getting around Victorian restrictions on women. At any rate, it was most likely part of my inspiration for this.

This is adorable and everyone should watch Granada. Also she was described in acd canon as an ‘adventuress’ which I know I have read was Victorian code for lesbian or at least wlw. I am frustrated by my inability to find a reference for that right now and I am wondering if I read it in one of my books on gay history, not online.