“[V]iolence against women is a form of
gender-based violence that is committed against women because they are women.” ~ Council Of Europe
Is it okay to do harm to women for not conforming to the stereotypes
assigned to them?
Is it okay to react with violence towards women who are not being
mindful of men’s comfort, power, or feelings?
Is it okay to enforce a position of dependence or subjugation for women,
and threaten financial, physical, or emotional retribution when a woman fights
against her chains?
Is it okay for women to not know their place?
But we’ve talked about all that, haven’t we?
These should have been questions with easy answers, but those who were
so firmly against the “dangerous” Istanbul Convention failed to understand the
real issue: violence against women is specific and distinct from violence
against the person. The Convention would have combated the root of the
problem, not given a man a slap on the wrist after he had burned his
ex-girlfriend’s face off with acid.
If everything was already fine, there wouldn’t be a need to sabotage a
measure which protects women – protecting women would already be in accordance
with the country’s goals. If the tools we had in place were working, we
wouldn’t be having thousands of women trapped in abusive relationships; all the
women in our lives wouldn’t have been able to tell countless stories of
harassment, abuse, rape, or other forms of women-specific violence.
Women-specific violence.
She was raped because she didn’t let him have her in the first place –
and satisfying him is a woman’s obligation.
She was hit because she burned his dinner – and cooking is a woman’s
obligation.
She was stomped on because she asked him where he’d been – and that is
not a woman’s business.
She was locked in her room because she was tired of him stinking of
alcohol – and telling him what to do is not a woman’s place.
She had her “allowance” taken away because she spent some time out with
her friends – and having a life outside her husband’s grasp is not a woman’s right.
this is why worshipping the so-called “traditional family” is a load of fucking bullshit
traditional family =/= domestic abuse
I’m pretty sure that the issue was the lack of divorce rights for women. but sure, twist things to fit your agenda and spread hate about other people’s lifestyles. You’re a true social activist.
I didn’t say the traditional family equaled domestic abuse. There are lots of happy nuclear families out there.
I said worshipping the traditional family is a load of fucking bullshit.
Even right now in the United States there are religious nutjobs who think that divorce is worse than domestic abuse. Because they think the traditional family (which isn’t even traditional–the idea that a family is just one pair of hetero parents and their kids and nobody else is really recent, historically; and really geographically limited to boot) is the only right way to exist, period, end of. Unmarried people have something wrong with them, people who aren’t straight or monogamous have something wrong with them, and if he hits you, you probably did something to provoke him. They still tell women this.
People fought hard against no-fault divorce, you know that, right?? Saying, specifically, that it would be the end of the traditional family? That’s why women didn’t have divorce rights before that.
I also love how this bill doesn’t follow the ableist agenda that’s been going around lately that demonizes mentally ill people. The bill carefully specifies that the ban is for convicted domestic abusers. Good job Oregon.
(Left to Right): Peter Buffett, Jimmie Briggs, Joe Ehrmann, Tony Porter, Dave Zirin and Moderator Eve Ensler.
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I 100% agree with the intent of this statement, (that women shouldn’t have to fix everything and that the overwhelming majority of rapists are men), but I just want people to know that if you have been raped by a woman, I’m sorry this happened to you and your experience is valid. I hope you get all the support you need too. Pandora’s Project has resources and forums to help.
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