instructor144:

I’ve been talking to a potential new sub for a few months now. She has some mental health issues but I’m a MH nurse so that’s not an issue for me.
But she was having a hard day today and she vented to me and cried and I said she wanted to self harm. I gave her a task instead, she was to write me a short story about an adventure. She did and it was good and it helped improve her mood.

A few hours later she said she thinks she needs to apologise, ‘i shouldn’t be talking to my dominant about my problems.’

My heart felt crushed hearing her say that. What kind of experiences must she have haad to come away with that idea of the dynamic.
Obviously I told her that dominance is about much more than sex and the her wellbeing and heppiness is my responsibility.

But I just wanted to say to anyone exploring BDSM that your Dom or your sub is so much more than a sexual partner. You have to be able to confide in them, to be vulnerable Infront of them (especially important for a Dom in my opinion) and to trust them with your emotions as well as your body.

I thought this would be a good blog to share this on. Thanks for reading.

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This ^^^