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I thought we left this psuedo-psychology in the 60s, shelved away with Frued. So, uh, because this apparently needs to be said:
COCSA (child on child sexual abuse) is a thing and a form of CSA, it is differentiated from “playing doctor” in by actual genital stimulation, as is being suggested
An adult permitting COCSA is sexual abuse
An adult exposing a minor to pornography is sexual abuse and grooming behavior
Exposure to pornography is one reason, second to having been molested, that a child will initiate sexually abusing another child
I WANT A BULLET PUT IN THE HEAD OF WHOMEVER THOUGHT THIS WAS HEALTHY AND GOOD.
THIS IS JUST LETTING MORE CHILD PORN BE DISTRIBUTED BEFORE OUR VERY EYES AND MORE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO START ACCEPTING IT UNTIL IT BECOMES LEGAL.
And by amazing, I mean, “well, at least this time people are being relatively straightforward that they prefer evangelical propaganda to actual scientific resources on child development and safety.”
But, you know, by all means tumblr, buy into the evangelical fantasy that the entire western world is a modern gomorrah rife with child sex slavery and ready to be burned by the cleansing fires of god.
That surely hasn’t even been used as a way to oppress and fucking murder people, and definitely never caused thousands of children to develop severe mental illnesses and oh yeah, to lack the words to describe being fucking raped so that they are unable to get help or protection. /sarcasm
Being antisexualist gets children hurt, and this kind of alarmist, anti-science claptrap is exactly how.
reblogging for the debunking. I had such a feeling of bafflement as I read the first few replies, wondering why people were accepting this at face value. Then I remembered the hysteria that always accompanies the combination of the word “children” and “sex” even when the latter is part of the phrase “sex education”.
please stop spreading reich-wing propaganda
Debunking time!
Additionally: I didn’t notice until now that if you go to OP’s blog they’re a literal Nazi, but indeed that is the case! Most of the first several commenters also declare right-wing affiliation in their bios.
Reblogging for the debunk and analysis of fascists spreading around bullshit.
At first glance, this new bill proposed by Texas Sen. Konni Burton seems harmless. Do a little digging, however, and its intention is crystal clear: The bill would require teachers to out LGBTQ students to their parents. The public knows this because Burton said as much herself.
this is so vile
God this is disgusting
NO
WHATEVER YALL FUCKING DO DONT LET THIS BILL PASS
As a closeted queer kids, the only irl place I can be myself is at school. The people there know. I’m not quiet about it. And they’re okay with it. And that takes some of the pain of being closeted from my family okay because hey I have a community that accepts me.
I wouldn’t be affected by this bill but for all the kids that are like me, that consider school a save haven, this could fuck some major shit up.
Don’t let this bill pass. Please.
Texas what the fUCK… Please don’t let this be real
DON’T LET THIS PASS!!!
Okay, this post is for everyone who is on the fence about this stupid post or needs to face the reality of it, okay? Lets get real. Story time.
So when I was freshman in high school, I knew this sweet girl. We’ll call her Hailey. She was a high b-average student, and she wanted to be a veterinarian. She had a rough life but was like a younger sister to her friends, and got along well with about everyone because of her bubbly nature. And as you probably suspect, she was gay. She found herself around sixth grade, so she established to her friends. But her friends only.
But during her freshman year, something horrible happened. One of her friend’s parents told her parents she was gay. Now what you need to know about this woman is that she didn’t do this out of any sense of cruelty. Her own son was gay, and she’d really struggled with that for awhile before accepting him and openly supporting him. And their relationship was great now.
So she wanted to tell Hailey’s parents, as a conservative parent as a gay child herself, because she felt like her reaction had been extreme, and she’d acted cruely and had wronged her child. She wanted to be there for them if they had negative reactions, and talk them through her experience.
Now Hailey, she had begged this woman not to. She had even cried over it, because she knew her parents, but this woman really thought she knew what was best and everything would be better once she no longer had to hide. And went off and told them behind Hailey’s back, without listening to her or giving her *any warning.*
And this woman said Hailey’s parents were quiet when she gave them the news. They listened to her entire story and experiences. They even asked a question or two, and said they’d talk about this with Hailey. And the woman left feeling like she’d done the right thing.
But she the furthest thing from the right thing that you can imagine. Hailey’s parents didn’t pick her up at the bus stop, so she walked home all by herself. She didn’t know she’d been outed, or anything was off. She thought her parents might just be working late.
And as she’s told me of the account afterwards: “I was happy. I’d passed that math test and I was going to ask my Dad if he might help me practice driving when I get home because I was thinking about taking Driver’s Ed. I thought it weird they weren’t returning my texts to tell me they were going to be late because we don’t live in the safest neighborhood, and they don’t like me walking alone, but I wasn’t worried. And then I got home… And then I got home and my parents were waiting for me, and I just. Knew. I just KNEW. Something about their expressions and way they stood up gave it away.”
And what happened next I was forced to believe. She told me, she just ran to the front door, but her Dad grabbed her and held her down. And as he held her down, her Mom proceeded to beat the living shit out of her.
And I’m not talking a slap across the face, or being struck with a belt. It was so bad that her screams – she was lucky enough to have run and got to the front door to be heard by a passing neighbor walking his kids home – who called the police.
But until they arrived, for minutes on minutes she was beaten by Dad and Mom. When she came back to school, she had bruises on her wrists from where she’d thrashed trying to get away from her Dad’s iron grip, and a fractured wrist. She had an ugly bruised and STITCHED forehead from where her mom’s wedding ring had gotten her, and black and bruised skin across her stomach from where she’d been repeatedly stomped on.
And you must be thinking, oh my God what horrible parents. They must have been punished harshly.
No. They spent just a single night in jail, and I still don’t know if they were later charged. Hailey was forced to leave her home. She told me no one would take her in, and never told me where she ended up having to stay.
And did I mention she was made to come to school the next day? Because she did. She tried to hide the injuries, but you really can’t hide those. Especially when you aren’t even wearing your own clothes because you weren’t allowed to go home and get them.
And I could tell you more. I could tell you how her parents wouldn’t let her back in her house to get ANY of her things. I could tell you how aunts and uncles turned her away like she was ridden with an STD.
I could tell you about how she dropped out of high school, or apparently the girl who wanted to be a veterinarian one day because she wanted to take care of sick animals and make them better tried to take her own life months later.
I could tell you that after that day, I didn’t see her again until I ran into her a YEAR later by chance. This girl VANISHED for a year. Her friends clammed up about her, like they were afraid and determined to not tell anyone where she was at any time. Ever.
So the next time you say OUTING someone couldn’t be that bad, or that making it law for a child’s safe place to out them is right or doesn’t concern you – remember Hailey. Remember the little sister-like girl who wanted to be a vet and once only seriously worried about math tests and learning to drive.
And you what? Hailey told me she still sees herself as someone lucky. Because she lives with her Grandpa now who flew down from Florida to take care of her. And she feels lucky because she still has someone, and because she’s still ALIVE.
So you remember that when they try to pass this law. You remember Hailey, and all those like her who were treated worse and aren’t here anymore. You probably know of someone. Remember people like Hailey, and protect them. Because when they say it IT ISN’T SAFE FOR THEM TO BE OUTED, believe them!!!
Because all it took was ONE person feeling obligated to out her, who didn’t believe Hailey, and before she was ready to leave home safely to cause all this.
This bill has made it to the senate but it’s still in committee, it’s close but not quite passed yet. There’s still time
A cat literally can’t express itself but a boy who wants to wear dresses will say “I want to wear a dress” vs a trans girl who will say “I’m a girl” there’s a massive difference and conflating the two just reveals how little you understand about our experiences.
I bet y’all demons would have kept trying to convince 13yo me that I was a boy. You only care about kids that turn out to be cis. You’re transparent and we see through you.
Also, a kid saying ‘I’m a girl’ instead of ‘I’m a boy’ is not going to die if they say they are a girl instead of a boy. A cat will die if fed a vegan diet.
Human children are also not animals, they are people. Comparing a four year old to an animal in terms of ‘ability to express ones self, intelligence, and capacity for decision making’ is not only vastly, provably incorrect, but extraordinarily dehumanizing.
A child is more than capable of making decisions on their own. No, they can’t make life altering ones like ‘keep grandpa on life support’, but they can choose things and know about themselves. Believe me, I have met a LOT of four year olds. They have the capacity for decision making. ‘This shirt or that shirt’, ‘these shoes or those shoes’, ‘this bear out of all these different bears’, ‘poutine not a burger’.
They can also tell you facts about themselves by age four: ‘I like the ocean!’, ‘I like pizza with pepperoni!’ ‘I have brown eyes!’ ‘my dog just died!’ and ‘I am a boy/girl’.
Four year old children are aware of a great many things. They certainly lack maturity and world knowledge, but they know enough about themselves by age four to tell you if you’re wrong about something about them. If I told a four year old ‘you have purple hair’ they would correct me if they in fact had blonde hair. If I call a boy a girl by mistake, they correct me and tell me ‘actually I’m a boy’. And who the hell am I to question that?
Kyle Stephens said she had her first sexual experience when she was 6 years old.
Larry Nassar, a family friend, exposed himself to her in a dark boiler room. From then until she was 12 years old, he would pleasure himself in front of her, rub his penis on her bare feet and put his finger in her vagina.At 12, she told her parents about the abuse, but they didn’t believe her. The abuse – and their denial – left her feeling brainwashed, caused a split in her family relationship and led to crippling anxiety, she said.But on Tuesday, Stephens defiantly stared down Nassar in a Michigan courtroom to inform him that the abuse was over, and his time as a free man was up.
“Little girls don’t stay little forever,” Stephens said. “They grow into strong women that return to destroy your world.”
Stephens was the first victim to speak in what is expected to be days of victim impact testimony as part of Nassar’s criminal sentencing.Given the remarkable scope of the years of abuse, several days of court have been set aside for victims or their parents to speak out about Nassar – and the systems of power that protected him. Prosecutors in court said that 98 victim statements are expected in all, though that number could change.Nassar, the former USA Gymnastics team doctor for about two decades, pleaded guilty in November to seven counts of criminal sexual conduct in Ingham County in Michigan. As part of his plea deal, he admitted that he used his position as a trusted medical professional to sexually abuse young girls.He also pleaded guilty to three other criminal counts in Eaton County. And he has already been sentenced to 60 years in prison for child pornography charges.
So, when I was in junior high, back in the Cretaceous Period, 😉 I checked out a book from the library about a junior high girl who is a photographer and whose sister gets cancer and dies. It was a beautifully written book, and I enjoyed angst because I was, you know, a junior high girl. 😉 So I read it over and over and over again. I checked it out from the library dozens of times.
One day, my mother noticed and asked what I was reading, and I started waxing enthusiastic about the book and what happens in it and I was just really happy to share, and she asked me, “Why do you like reading that? Do you want your sister to die?”
I didn’t respond well.
Now that I’m an adult, I understand that my mother primarily read for wish-fulfillment (historical romances, mostly), and that she furthermore believed that this was why everyone else read.
This is not why everyone else reads.
Many people read because they want to know what it would be like to be someone else. Someone of a different gender. Someone who lives in a different place. Someone with different skills. Someone whose life is completely different from theirs. Some of these people are happiest when a character is complicated.
People do this to authors, too, by the way. They assume that authors who write convincingly about rape or child abuse have been raped or abused themselves. This is not necessarily true. Mystery writers are not all homicidal maniacs. I know that will shock some of you. 😉
Stories are important. They teach us about life.
To make a long story short, if you think you can psychoanalyze a fan (or an author) based on their reading (or writing) preferences, you are wrong.
To drag this over to what prompted the rant, a fan telling another fan that they think Snape is a racist and therefore if they like Snape they are also a racist is approximately as valid as insisting that everyone who likes the Harry Potter series wishes both of their parents had been murdered.
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