I’ve tried to do this kind of thing before, but for my own mental health, I think it’s worth trying again.
If you guys could signal boost this, I will be forever grateful, because right now my world has been looking pretty grim. Going back into retail was a necessary evil but it hasn’t been very kind to me.
Right now, I’m just asking for some stability.
I’ve raised $15 so far, which is $15 dollars closer to my goal.
Please keep in mind part of this is so I can spend more time working on art and writing – so if you like my work, please consider donating. If you can’t donate, that’s okay. A signal boost means everything.
This is ultimately for my mental health, as well as my own financial stability. I just watched my paycheck get swallowed up by debt payments, with just barely enough to pay bills and groceries. Things like doctor’s appointments have been shoved to the side while I try to keep my head above water. I use whatever kind of extra money that I have to make sure my dogs are taken care of or my car will still run so I can get to work and have been letting my own health fall on the back burner.
So when I say that I really need to get out of this debt soon, it’s not something I’m saying lightly.
So please, any help will do. I really appreciate it. Thank you.
When other people, especially older people, try to ‘educate’ you about how ‘sexuality is complicated’ and how ‘you might not be ace’ and that ‘you’re probably confused’ and that ‘you’re probably [this] instead’,
You run.
Sexuality is indeed complicated, and yes, you might not be ace. But these kinds of people couldn’t care less either way.
Helpful people give you the freedom of choice – whether that choice lasts a lifetime, or until the next morning. Helpful people give you the agency to make your own decision about your own, personal, private identity.
If someone is trying to collectively discourage questioning aces into forgoing their ace identity? That’s not helpful. That’s an illusion of help under the guise of liberation. They’re trying to make you into something they want you to be.
Whether their advice is helpful or not, to any degree, this type of gaslighting and manipulation is not what you deserve. You can get the same kind of answers and help and support from people who aren’t damaging and toxic.
Find people who will let you be ace. Find people who will let you be yourself.
– Fae
^As someone who’s experienced something similar as a bi and trans person, this right here.
You deserve to be respected for who you are.
A supportive comment is “Hey if you find your identity changing it doesn’t mean you were previously a liar it just means you’re still learning about yourself and that’s okay!”
A suspect comment “you’re too young to know your identity. It’s probably going to change”
My gender identity and sexuality changed a LOT as I discovered words that described my experiences and grew to know myself
But then I know people who have known since they were like 5 what gender they had and that they fancied the same gender
No one other than you can know if your self perception changes and frankly the rest of the world should take the stance I take with my kid: whatever YOU tell me at this moment is who you are is what I will respect it and if you change your labels later I will just take in the updated information and respect it without adding any opinion because YOUR identity is not about me
I realised last night, as I was reading the latest chapter in @sincewhendoyoucallme-john ’s Whiteout that this is what we wish for them, Mr Sherlock Holmes and Dr John Watson, what we draw when we write and what we desperately hope for when we read; finally, the closed circle.
In Zen, ensō (円相 , “circle”) is a circle that is hand-drawn in one or two uninhibited brushstrokes to express a moment when the mind is free to let the body create. The ensō symbolizes enlightenment, strength, elegance, the universe, and mu (the void) … The circle may be open or closed. In the former case, the circle is incomplete, allowing for movement and development as well as the perfection of all things … When the circle is closed, it represents perfection…Once the ensō is drawn, one does not change it. It evidences the character of its creator and the context of its creation in a brief, continuous period of time. ~ Wikipedia
All the wonderful stories that have been and continue to be written, allow for the movement and development of them, their relationship and our understanding of it; the perfection of all things in their friendship and their love.
And what is even more poignant about the ensō is that even when the circle is drawn complete, perfect, it is redrawn by the creator repeatedly.
Whether it be fluff or smut, AU or canon, a little bit of fun or a tale of great beauty, every imagining of these truly remarkable characters, each and every circle, is perfectly perfect.
One of my dear friends @holmezyan once remarked “my favourite story still has no end, but it is gorgeous.” And I think that this is exactly how it was always meant to be.
So here’s to circles drawn, and fanfics written, over and over and over again.
I have non-fandom friends who don’t understand how I can read so many millions of words about the same two people. Don’t I get bored? Haven’t I read a variation of that plot before?
I adore watching these two souls find each other in endless universes. I love the different interpretations, the different settings and outcomes. Whether it’s an AU (Victorian Johnlock? Trans Park Ranger John and Wolf Researcher Sherlock? Coffee or Flower shops), or canon divergent, or fluff or smut or angst or even just a quick flash of life at 221b in ficlet form… it’s all beautiful.
And that’s just the fanfic – the fan art is just as beautiful – cartoons and chibis and comics and portraits so real I think they’re photographs. Even fan manips… sheer perfection.
We are a lucky fandom to have so much talent. And lucky to watch these two great characters explore the depths of emotion, and go on more adventures and be domestic and exotic all at the same time.
I love their love story. And I love how many ways that love story plays out for me, every single day.
What Jesus Wants: for humans to be considered better than dogs?? better than RATS?? better than snails?!!??
What Satan Wants: all life forms are good, wonderful; perfect
My favorite part of the Bible is when it says that whales are God’s second favorite creation after humans
wtf do these drawings have to do with this text? I am honestly baffled:
4 The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. 2 Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron.3 They forbid people to marry and order them to abstain from certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and who know the truth. 4 For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, 5 because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.
No, but seriously, do you know how amazing Vincent Price is?
Not just as an actor, although he was a blast to watch in everything he did. He’s one of those actors who’s just clearly having a whale of a time, no matter how bad the film is. He’s just genuinely happy to be there (it makes his villains a particular delight, and he played a LOT of them).
But did you know that he was also on the PFLAG board after his daughter came out to him? And that he was one of the earliest celebrities to speak out against the silence surrounding the AIDS epidemic?
Did you know that when his daughter came out to him, he admitted to her that it had been difficult for him during his first two marriages, because his wives had not been pleased to find out that their husband was just as interested in men as they were?
That’s right, kids, Vincent Price was BISEXUAL AS FUCK, and it was one of those open Hollywood secrets. And his wife Coral Browne? The one he grew old with and wrote cookbooks with and was basically ridiculously sweet with?
Also bisexual as fuck. They were the queer power couple of Hollywood in the 70s. His daughter, Victoria, grew up around Rock Hudson and members of the LGBT community. When she came out, Vincent Price became a board member of PFLAG and was just about the most accepting and awesome dad.
Did you know that Vincent Price played Oscar Wilde in a one-man play, and when it was denounced by anti-gay activist Anita Bryant, he dismissed her right back, saying that Oscar Wilde had already come up with a term for her: a Woman of No Importance? Because Vincent Price was deliciously witty and an awesome person.
Let me conclude with a quote from his daughter (from this article, where I got a lot of this information):
‘“In a funny way, and I think I’m going to cry, he understood me at 22 better than I understood myself then,” Price concluded. “Of course, he was in his 70s and lived a hell of a lot longer than I had, and he understood that at the end of the day it’s about who and what and how we love. And I have not been a person who has been very successful at conventional relationships, but loving well and loving deeply has been the most important thing to me.”’
Happy birthday, Vincent Price. You were a gem of an actor, and an even greater human being.
My favorite thing that transphobes do when they try to argue that I am indeed a man is 1. they first state that if you have a penis, you’re a man, then 2. insist because I have a beard, I’m a man. And when I assure them that nah, I do actually have a vagina and a beard due to an easily googleable hormonal disorder, they insist I’m lying about the vagina part of it.
So if I were a trans man, and identified as a man and confirmed I hadn’t had bottom surgery, would they then validate my gender identity simply because my hormones give me a beard? Or would they flip the argument then and say “oh but no, you have a vagina so you’re a woman!!!”
Like they don’t even see how fucking flawed their logic is lmfao. You can’t believe genitals define gender then insist secondary sex characteristics alone define gender! It’s almost like you don’t know what the shit you’re talking about lmfao
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