cj-today:

today in french we were doing an exercise on adjective forms and some of the sentences said things like “boys prefer pretty girls,” “girls prefer muscular boys,” etc. and my 40 yr old straight married professor makes an awkward face and says “ok, wow these just got weirdly heteronormative. how about you fill in the blank with whatever noun-adjective combination you want, as long as it follows correct grammar”

and the answers that we came up with were amazing.

  • girls don’t prefer boys, girls prefer (fast) cars and money 
  • boys prefer beautiful barbecues
  • girls prefer annoying cats
  • boys prefer 75 large plastic dinosaurs
  • and of course: pretty girls prefer pretty girls 

so remember kids, heteronormativity doesn’t belong in the classroom but 75 large plastic dinosaurs do.

stephrc79:

brendaonao3:

So, here’s a big pro-tip for you:

If you want to promote and celebrate fandom diversity and encourage more authors and artists into your community and to write your faves, you have to actually GIVE THEM A SAFE SPACE to create.  And you also have to DEFEND THAT RIGHT to a safe space against people who want to tear it down.

This really shouldn’t be a difficult concept, but apparently it needs to be reiterated.

And this goes double if you’re running any sort of fandom community/event. Because yes, it 100% IS your duty to look out for and protect your creators from backlash.  To step in and say, “We don’t tolerate bullying in ANY form in our community, so back off with the hate”.  You don’t get to pick and choose and say, “well, if you wrote/drew this, you’re on your own, even though we included you in our community/event and allowed you to participate” – the only thing it does is tell other creators that your community/event is not a welcoming place for them.  That you’re condoning bullying and don’t care if real people are getting hurt or leaving the fandom because of it.

Fandom is for EVERYONE.  It’s a free space for every type of fan to safely engage in their creativity, no matter what it is.  You don’t have to like every aspect of what other people are creating, but you do have to respect their right to create it, and you have to defend it from any sort of bullying or purists who would strip away those rights.  That’s the only way to actually BE a safe place for diverse voices.

And fandom – the world for that matter – could use a lot more diversity and tolerance, not less.

#fandom politics#fandom policing#and yes#if someone is writing a trope you don’t like#this goes for you#if someone is engaging in fandom activity you deem problematic#it also goes for you#if someone is promoting a harmful stereotype#then start a conversation#come from a place of inclusion#but all bullying does#is drive people away#and does nothing to combat any sort of issue#it’s not your job to police what people write or draw or create 

(via @brendaonao3)

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Gettin real tired of this bullying shit fandom, and I’m especially pissed and Every Single One Of You who has condoned it. 

miraculousfinn:

rian johnson’s assertions that kylo is meant to be seen as “relatable” and going through the trials of adolescence (despite being 30 years old and having become what he is around the age of 25), along with him labeling kylo and rey as “two halves of the protagonist” (not only erasing finn as the co-lead of the new trilogy, but insinuating that kylo is equally as sympathetic as rey) are incredibly disturbing to me because painting a violent, abusive, actually fascist white man well into his adulthood as someone that children can connect with is horrifying and the last thing we need right now given the state of things

EW!

acesapphic:

Ready for a long ace-centric metaphor about sex? 

Alright, so. Coffee. I don’t drink coffee. I have no desire to drink coffee. I find people who enthusiastically go on about the flavor differences of lattes, espressos, and french press brews, both amusing and mildly baffling. All the coffee ads. Coffee jokes. Bustling coffee shops. To me, all coffee is similarly bitter and unpleasant. I have been through so many “Try this, it’s sweet! You can’t even taste the coffee!”  Alas, I always can. And I’m  sensitive to caffeine anyway. So, I don’t really think about drinking it when I wake up or am tired.

 Yet I love the smell of coffee. I love the idea of coffee. The feeling of a warm cup taking the chill from my fingers, the cozy ritual of having a drink and chat.

I might try someone’s coffee. If they ask, if I want to please them and share in something they enjoy.

I am also perfectly capable of learning the preferences of those I care about and creating a cup for their pleasure. 

But I don’t want coffee, generally speaking. I will probably make a face after trying their coffee and wash the taste out with something else. They may rush to reassure me that it is an acquired taste. And I’ll have to reply that it’s a taste I don’t particularly care about acquiring in the way they did. ‘Drink it till you like it’ will never work for me.

 But that doesn’t mean I am against coffee or think people shouldn’t drink it. Doesn’t mean I’ve taken a vow to never drink any. And sure, maybe if you get one of those sugar and whipped cream disasters, more of a warm milkshake than a cup of coffee, I’ll probably be happier sipping it with you. But honestly? I’d rather smell someone else’s coffee and not be expected to drink it. I’d really rather have the heat and sweetness of my hot cocoa.