Parents need to stop staying in loveless marriages just because they have kids. Stop sacrificing your happiness just so your kids can grow up in a 2 parent household. It’s toxic for the kids to grow up watching a dysfunctional marriage because it warps their perception of what love actually is. I know they think they’re doing what’s best for everyone, but it’s really not.
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I would love to see a more recent study on this. The last study I read was by a single mom who literally set out to prove that it was just as good. Unfortunately she found it wasn’t. Of course there are exceptions in both directions, but society has shifted so much I wonder if the same study was done today what the results would bring. Were the negative outcomes more the product of single parenting or the social stigma single parents face? Is it fine when shared custody works well? And if we are just looking at the outcomes related to relationship success is the op right? I really want modern data on this!
Parents already blame teachers for bad grades and their kids getting into trouble. Now you want to hand teachers GUNS and give parents the potential to blame teachers for the DEATHS OF THEIR KIDS if a teacher DID have a gun and the school WAS attacked and the teacher for some reason couldn’t protect ALL the students? Or, heaven forbid, they hesitated because they knew the student or, you know, because it’s a KID?!? You want to hand us guns and tell us to know how to use them…but what happens when kids STILL die? When guns get stolen for some reason/in some way by students? Who does the blame fall on? How are teachers supposed to justify shooting attackers and BECOMING KILLERS REGARDLESS OF THE REASON. How will we be defended –WILL we be defended?– if a student dies, whether they’re an attacker or a victim?
The solution to the gun problem IS NOT more guns and it most certainly is not to arm TEACHERS with guns!
How do you expect these bonuses to gun wielding teachers to work? Is Trump going to give us these bonuses? Are we slashing the budgets of other activities and programs in schools for it? How are we going to fund bonuses for gun toting educators when we can’t even pay teachers properly in the first place? We struggle to make a living and now you’re saying you want to give us bonuses not for doing our jobs but for WIELDING GUNS?!? What kind of nonsense is this?
The Albert Hall was crowded. There were eighty competitors, each of whom had to stand on a pedestal, arrayed only in a leopard’s skin… The three men were all wonderful specimens, but one was a little clumsy and another a little short, so we gave the valuable gold statue to the middle one, whose name was Murray, and who came from Lancashire.
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The info’s all at the site, in table format, but here it is on your dash as a list. The 50 states, Washington, D.C., and Puerto Rico, all alphabetized.
Alabama: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
Alaska: you may register to vote within 90 days of your 18th birthday. You must be 18 to vote.
Arizona: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election.
Arkansas: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
California: you may pre-register to vote if you are 16.
Colorado: you may pre-register to vote if you are 16.
Connecticut: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
Delaware: you may pre-register to vote if you are 16. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
Florida: you may pre-register to vote if you are 16.
Georgia: you may register to vote within 6 months of your 18th birthday. You must be 18 to vote.
Hawaii: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
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Mississippi: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
Missouri: you may register to vote within 6 months of your 18th birthday. You must be 18 to vote.
Montana: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
Nebraska: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
Nevada: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
New Hampshire: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
New Jersey: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election.
New Mexico: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
New York: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election.
North Carolina: you may pre-register to vote if you are 16. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
North Dakota: does not have voter registration. You must be 18 to vote.
Ohio: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
Oklahoma: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
Oregon: you may pre-register to vote if you are 16.
Pennsylvania: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
Puerto Rico: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election.
Rhode Island: you may pre-register to vote if you are 16.
South Carolina: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
South Dakota: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
Tennessee: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
Texas: you may register to vote within 2 months of your 18th birthday. You must be 18 to vote.
Utah: you may pre-register to vote if you are 16.
Vermont: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
Virginia: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
Washington: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
Washington D.C.: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election.
West Virginia: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next General Election. Registered 17 year-olds who will be 18 by the general election can vote in primaries.
Wisconsin: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
Wyoming: you may register to vote if you are 18 by the next election, including primaries.
I also love how this bill doesn’t follow the ableist agenda that’s been going around lately that demonizes mentally ill people. The bill carefully specifies that the ban is for convicted domestic abusers. Good job Oregon.
John
took a sip of his eggnog, desperately wishing his mum hadn’t suddenly decided
to pour all the brandy down the drain last night. She probably wanted to
prevent another drunken brawl, though wasn’t that just another family tradition
at this point? He sighed heavily. At least a smidge of brandy would have dulled
the pain of listening to the giant row Da and Harry were still having. Apparently, he didn’t appreciate
her fashion sense.
Of
course, deciding to wear her ‘Dyke the Halls’ sweater to Christmas Eve service
probably wasn’t her most politic decision.
John walked outside, letting the door fall shut behind him. It
was cold and clear as he walked down to the pavement, far enough away that at
least he couldn’t hear the exact words anymore. He missed Sherlock and the coziness
of their flat keenly. Despite having a flatmate who might blow things up at any
moment, John still felt safer there. It had been years since Da had tried to
land a blow on any of them, but he was still a sight when he was mad and it
brought back too may uncomfortable memories in this house.
He wondered how Sherlock was faring. Mrs. Hudson had left some
of Sherlock’s favorite biscuits on a plate by his microscope, but John realized
he hadn’t left anything. Maybe they’d do a little something when he got home.
Not that Sherlock celebrated. Was Sherlock even home, or had Mycroft convinced
him to come to the country cottage after all? In all likelihood he was puttering
around Baker Street alone.
John smiled, as he recalled a dream from the night before. Sherlock
had been analyzing Christmas decor like Jack Skellington in Nightmare Before
Christmas. The more he imagined Sherlock bent over his microscope looking at
holly sprigs and running experiments on powdered ornament glass, the more
tickled he got, until he was giggling like loon. God, he missed that
madman.
The door slammed behind him
and Harry grabbed his glass and drained it. “Damn. You out here sounding mad
as a hatter I thought you’d found a nip of something.”
“No such luck. Mum.”
“Yeah, I know.”
“Has Da simmered down yet?”
“Nope. I’m still queer.”
John snorted a strangled sort
of chuckle without much mirth. If his increasingly frequent thoughts about
Sherlock these past weeks meant anything, he might be too. He still liked
women. Always had. But something niggling in the back of his mind told him it
wasn’t <i>just</i> women.
It wasn’t often that a bloke caught his attention, but it had been easy to
ignore before. But now? He had stopped dating months ago. Unfortunately,
Sherlock didn’t feel things that way. Maybe at all, maybe just about him. He
took a deep breath and said, “Me, too.”
Harry looked up, eyes wide
for a second before they narrowed again. “I knew it! You’re shagging him aren’t
you.”
John blushed and muttered, “In
my dreams” before he could stop himself.
He figured she’d be angry,
with her taking the brunt of the fighting ever since their parents had caught
her having more than a sleepover with Sally Jane when they were 16. Instead she
just fixed him with a look which softened into such sympathy he nearly teared
up as she laid a hand on his arm and said, “Oh, John. Does he know?”
“I figure he must. He’s
Sherlock. But then, maybe not. Emotions aren’t really his area.”
“You should tell him. Clara
dated that bloke from chem class and I thought she’d never like me. We wasted a
year dancing around each other because she thought I was one of those lesbians
that wouldn’t go with a girl who liked guys too and I,” she laughed in self deprecation,
“I forgot both was an option so I didn’t ask her out after they broke up. Then
she snogged a girl at my end of term party and that was that. You never know if
you don’t ask.”
John sighed. Maybe she was
right. There was that first night, but they barely knew each other then and
John hadn’t been trying to hit on him. Not consciously. Anyway, that was a long
time ago.
“Don’t bollocks it up like I
did. One of us should get to be happy.”
Harry rarely admitted fault
for their break up, but it was definitely her drinking that pushed a wedge
between them. She and Clara had been so happy until Harry lost her job and
befriended the bottle again. They tried getting help, but Harry had to lose the
one thing she loved before she was willing to crawl out again.
John squeezed her hand. “I’m
not sure happy is a Watson trait.”
She shook her head. “Maybe
not, but you deserve it.“
you know, when i said i wanted the real world to be more like harry potter i just meant the teleportation and the butterbeer, not the entire plot of book 5 where the government refuses to do anything about a deadly threat so the teenagers have to rise up and fight back
It always surprises John when he sees how much Sherlock loves Rosie.
Not that John expected Sherlock to hate her, but even John himself wasn’t all that enthused to be having a baby when he first found out, and now that it’s just himself raising her it’s fucking overwhelming. When he moves back into 221B, he didn’t think Sherlock would completely accept the whole “baby thing” or would maybe delete Rosie when she wasn’t right in front of him, or not know how to properly care for babies and not bother to learn because..well.. Why would he? Rosie is John’s child and John’s responsibility. Not Sherlock’s. Besides. It was Sherlock Holmes. John couldn’t imagine him raising a baby.
Except now John can imagine it because he gets to see proof of it every. single. day.
Sherlock is in love with Rosie. He plays with her. Feeds her. Bathes her. Dresses her. Talks to her. Changes her nappies. Comes back to the flat with small little presents for her, even if it’s just a sweet or a fiddly little toy he saw that made him think of her. Sherlock even takes Rosie with him on minor cases (nothing even remotely dangerous or blood-soaked). He puts her in the baby sling on his chest and wraps his coat around her when it’s cold so he looks like he’s suddenly gotten a belly…except it’s Rosie who is sleeping safely inside.
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