aprillikesthings:

tomthefanboy:

darkxchina:

rubyvroom:

The thing is nobody teaches girls how to pick up girls. It seems like just about the entirety of culture is dedicated to helping men strategize how to get women. From an early age boys are learning how to get a girl’s number and how to ask her out and etc etc etc but who teaches girls this? Where do we learn? Girls learn how to be asked out, how to entice, how to invite attention, but not how to instigate. We aren’t taught and we don’t teach each other. If a girl likes girls she’s gotta figure it out for herself, if she’s not lucky enough to be in a community where there are clear signifiers of interest and older wlw who will show them the ropes. How often do you suppose there are gay girls who are sitting there aching to hook up with each other but neither of them is making the first move? They don’t know the moves? They can’t tell if their interest is welcome and how to find out? Maybe they go to lgbt spaces and hope like hell for someone to approach them because how the hell do you hit on a girl? People just do that?? HOW?? And they go home alone again and again. Meanwhile men will do all the approaching and introducing and making things happen and it’s just EASIER. It just is. And anyway this is why I feel like a lot of bisexual women end up with men long-term.  

SERIOUSLY

This reminds me of two people who knew aikido
were asked to a demonstration without knowing the other one knew aikido. Just circling each other and waiting for the other one to make a move.

For real, this was a huge part of it for me. 

Men: everywhere, likely to approach you first, easy

Women: you gotta go special places or use apps to find other women who are into women, and then you don’t know what to do when you get there