Dom/Sub

daddyswhores18:

‘I don’t sleep in the same bed with my submissive.
I don’t go on dates, that’s not what I do.
I don’t make love, I fuck, hard.
So what do I get out of it?
Me’.

All these bullshit lines are from Fifty shades and some people actually believe that to be a Dom means you have to be demanding and distant all the time. That if you show kindness then that’s being weak or submissive.
Get the fuck outta here with that and stop trying to act like a dysfunctional character from a popular book.
The acts of kindness you do for your sub may or may not look like things I do, but unless you’re planning on being in a very short-term, unrealistic relationship, you’re probably going to do nice things for each other.
That has nothing to do with roles or a power exchange. Being a Dom means being able to be Dominant. That’s it. Doesn’t mean you’re heartless or unable to show affection or care for your lady, it simply means that you enjoy taking control and being in charge.
If you want to be a mean and strict dominant all the time and you find someone who wants to serve that kind of Dom all the time, then that’s awesome. But don’t be delusional and think that’s what everyone wants.
Because they don’t. I like being a good Sir who cares for his princess at times and a bad Sir who makes his princess suffer for him and serve his every word at other times. Sometimes I like being greedy and doing it all.
The most important part is to find out what works for you and your partner and not try to convince others, your way is the only way.