honestly fatphobia made me fatter. i would eat large amounts of comfort food to deal with the effects my abusive parents had on me then they would criticize me for eating and being fat and the cycle would just go on and on

fatphobiabusters:

iamjusticebeaver:

fatphobiabusters:

Studies have shown this to be the case for lots of fat people, actually. You’re not alone.

-Mod Bella

THAT’S IT. The main reason why talking about someone’s weight or eating habits are bad, no matter what. EVERYONE, fat or not, use food as an escape mechanism.

If you are REALLY concerned about the health of an overweight person (or anyone, really), be available to talk to them about their problems, without judgment and offering positive words. Make them see how beautiful and strong they are. How they can make anything good happen.

Don’t talk about their looks or the food they choose to eat, THEY KNOW what they are consuming. And that’s not the root of all their unhealthy actions in their life. AT ALL.

DON’T BE PART OF THEIR PROBLEMS.

Adding to this, never assume that someone’s size is related to health problems or that changing how they eat is going to solve those problems. You really don’t know. And remember that people’s mental health is just as important as their physical health if not more so.

-Mod Bella

This is so important! Honestly my mother is still fatshaming me because she literally doesn’t get that is what she is doing. She said something “helpful” the other day about avoiding the donuts at a church thing and I honestly said, “and now I want to eat two of them” and her eyes got as big as saucers. I finally have the strength to tell her what she is doing to me and it is honestly so freeing.